Where do you stand?

I was having a hard time figuring out what my first post would be about. Nothing much has changed with my family and nothing much has happened around me. After hours of thinking, I decided to take a break and tackle my school assignments. Something caught my eye, and I began reading some posts people had up in my school forum, which is a place where all students can discuss any topic.

I was reading a couple of posts about marriage. I have to say that certain things that were said seemed dreadful to me. I am all for freedom of speech and all for everyone has rights, but what happened to the rights of someone who is thought of as “not progressive”? Am I really not progressive if I up hold my personal beliefs? Should I be put down because of my beliefs? I am a person who likes to take everything into account and research and learn everything before making a decision on something I believe in. I do not take what anyone says as what is true. But as I read these posts, some pro same sex marriages, some against, there was one thing someone said that truly hit me hard, “Marriage is seen as disposable and meaningless in today's society.”

Is this true? Is this what our world, our country has become? Do we see marriages as something that does not matter, no matter in what circumstance it is in? For a woman who has been married for over ten years, I take this statement seriously. Marriage is supposed to be something special, something that you share with only a single other person. It is the finding of your soul mate, your lover, and your best friend. I would never see my marriage as “disposable or meaningless”. Those words should not even be attached to the word marriage.

I think the problem here is not that marriage is “disposable or meaningless”, but that people stopped getting to know the person they are about to marry and people have stopped trying to work things out. 100 years ago, women could not divorce as easily, so working on their relationship became important. Now we have forgotten the working on part and have settled on the quitting part. A marriage is not easy, it needs work. This is something that people tend to forget. For me, divorce is not even in my vocabulary because I know that any problems or issues I may have in my relationship can be solved. And this is something that I will stand by. To I refuse to accept that marriages are “disposable or meaningless”.

Where do you stand?